Life and Business Lessons

THIS YEAR = NEW BREAKTHROUGH!!

Here is MY GOAL for all that I've shared from last few months till now, you can start working it all to all of your life systems, you know, your career, your relationships, your financial futures, your health, everything. Improvement in all areas. Sometimes you need to just spend a little more time on one area of your life because that may need fixing or repairing or expanding, you know all systems need to be worked on.

And hopefully the variety of ideas that we're gonna shared here in all of these time will gonna helpful for you.

Then I've a request, "How many of you promised me that when somebody ideas make good sense you'll PASS THEM ALL to somebody else?"

Yes, I look with my sixth sense that everybody agree :-) See that's what's make me extremely happy, that the ideas that are gonna be shared, long after you read these BLOG. That's what important to me, that the idea will continue.

LET ME WRITE ABOUT SETTING GOALS. All of the things that really help transform my life, goal setting really did wonders for me. I read some of Jim Rohn books when his mentor (Mr. Shoaff) said this to Jim, "Let me see your current list of goals and let go over them, and I got some experiences. Let's talk about them, maybe I can give you some help."

And Jim saih once to his mentor, "I don't have a list."
Mr Shoaff continued, "Wow, IF YOU DON'T HAVE A LIST OF YOUR GOALS, I CAN PROBABLY GUESS YOUR BANK ACCOUNT WITHIN A FEW DOLLARS."

Jim response, "You mean to tell me if I had alist of my goals, it would make a different in my bank account.
Mr Shoaff continued, "A DRASTIC DIFFERENT!!" (it got my attention too...)

So make these note :
THE FUTURE'S WHERE WE GOIN' THE PAST'S WHERE WE BEEN THE PRESENTS WHERE WE ARE.

And if we can capture these moment in time from our past to now, and then from now to a future, more will design with better objective and better purpose for ourselves, our family and our business, pur investments, everything else and these moment in time will have become extremely valuable.

Let me share and give you first what really affects us all :
1. We're affected by the (physical) environment in which we live.
I was challenge way back in most early days, " WHY NOT MAKE THE ENVIRONMENT BETTER EVERYWHERE YOU GO?"

Like TURN OF THE LIGHTS WHEN YOU CHECK OUT OF YOUR HOTEL (or maybe your dormitory) AND YOU LEAVE THE ROOM BEFORE YOU LEAVE, TURN OFF THE LIGHTS.

And I thought, why do that? I learn that to make a contribution is that SO EASY, that didn't cost you any time and money, or a piece of your life. Why not make the contribution that easy, because if everybody did it, think of how much we would conserve?

Someone said, "Well yes, but the hotel benefits if you turn off all the lights."
And here's the answer that sophisticated people always have, "Who cares who benefits."
If it benefits the hotel, and everybody did it, probably the cost of the hotel would come down. Every benefit you can give and share, because here's what happens :
IF YOU LEARN TO GIVE YOU WILL RECEIVE.

Maybe not in the manner in which you gave, maybe in some mysterious ways, it always comes back to us. In fact here's what it says, that for the uneducated it'll a be a little bit strange, it says it's better to give than it's to receive. Now see if you don't didn't understand, you would say that doesn't quite make sense. Surely it would be better to receive than to give? And the answer is NO! It's much better to give than to receive. And here's why, it's what we call being in having intelligence self interest, nothing wrong with self interest as long as you do it in the intelligence way.

Here's the key : Because GIVING STARTS THE RECEIVING PROCESS. So to act intelligently in your own self interest, which is good, it's much better to give than it is to receive. Because all of you do, all you do is receive that maybe very limited. But if you give and giving starts the receiving process coming your way from unknown resources and from unknown places back it comes around to you because you become a giver. There's a unique mystery of life, we give to receive and it's better to give than it's to receive.
And one more else : It raises your self esteem plus your self respect that you do things that the average person doesn't do, maybe if they would thought they would, maybe if somebody mention it, they would. But it easy for most everybody to go their way, and if they're not interrupted by a good idea, that says, "Hey it's so easy to make contribution, this one would be easy, turn off the lights when you leave the hotel room, and make a contribution.

Next is the phrase in term of environment : ALWAYS LEAVE SOMETHING BETTER THAN YOU FOUND IT. A high percent of people leave the apartment or dormitory trash! If they stay six month and stay one year, they leave it trash, not better. Why would anyone do that? I read a suggestion : LEAVE IT BETTER THAN YOU FOUND IT. See that's just the commitment to your own self esteem, and why not do it if it makes a contribution to your self esteem. It's called INTELLIGENT SELF INTEREST.

IF YOU TAKE CARE OF THE FEW, WE WILL SOMEDAY GIVE YOU A POSITION of very high important over many. But if you don't be disciplined when the amount are small, why would be trust you when the amount are large? WHY WOULD LIFE GIVE YOU A FORTUNE TO MANAGE IF YOU COULDN'T MANAGE THE GIFTS OF THE FEW? Interesting philosophy to consider. Your own self interest leave the contribution.

I was there when I leave a restaurant and give me a toothpick, it's easy to throw it to the floor somewhere looks like other people done the same. And I read this suggestion : PUT THE TRASH IN YOUR POCKET AND THEN DEPOSIT IT AT YOUR HOME. How much does it cost to clean the trash on the highway in Jakarta?

MEGA MEGA MEGA MILLIONS. Would people take home their own trash and deposit it there rather than scatter it on the highway across Jakarta, and the answer is MOST PEOPLE DO NOT ! It's so easy to throw it up the window but now add this : IT'S SO EASY TO KEEP IT IN YOUR CAR, and have a few more points in your favor on self esteem, feeling good about yourself, doing things that most people don't do.

If every did it, what a different country we would have. But it doesn't really matter. But if everybody is not gonna do it, why should I do it?

And the answer is your for own dignity, and for your own self esteem, you do things that most other people allow themselves to do that you didn't do. Read More...

#14 Demand integrity from yourself. You can’t demand integrity from someone else. Integrity is like loyalty. You can only demand of yourself. Be the best example of loyalty, and you’ll get some loyal followers. Be the best example of integrity, and you’ll have people surround you that have integrity. Lead the way.
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Here's the next one :

#8 Ask For Wisdom
This is communication of the highest source. Ask for wisdom that creates answers, faith to believe, things that are possible. In King Salomon's day there was the dilemma of two mothers who claimed the same baby.

And the question was : "Who's baby is this??!"
This mother said, "It's mine."
The other mothersaid, "No, It's mine."

Salomon said, "Bring me the baby!"

They brought in the baby and he raised his sword and said, "I'm gonna cut this baby an half, and give one half to this mother, and one half to this mother". And as he raised his sword, sobbingly, the real mother said, "NO..NO..NO!! Don't cut the baby in half, give it her" (who was not the real mother).

Salomon said, "Now I know who's the real mother." See that's so wise. And the moment was such as drama. But Salomon, the wisest of the wise knew what to do to settle the deal. Ask for wisdom to deal with the challenges of today and tomorrow, maybe the challenges your family brings you.

DON'T WISH IT IS WAS EASIER, WISH YOU WERE BETTER.

#9 Conserve Your Time.
I must learn to do this. How much time have I got left? Not an unlimited supply. Sometimes we get fake out. Bill Bailey (and the average person) said, "I got twenty more years." NO! Bill said, "You got twenty more times." If you go fishing once a year, you've only got twenty more times to go fishing, NOT TWENTY YEARS! That fakes you out. "I got twenty years" NO! Twenty times. See, that brings it right down to the real stuff.
How many blog's like this? NOT A THOUSAND ! A FEW! JUST A FEW!

If you're a person of some dignity and quality, you won't let that happen.

#10 Invest Your Profit
I'll gonna write about this before finishing my writing on financial independence. PROFIT ARE BETTER THAN WAGES. WAGES MAKE YOU A LIVING, PROFIT MAKES YOU A FORTUNE.

"Could we start earning profit while we're making a living?" --> The answer is YES ! I went BERSERK !!!!!!!

#11 Protect Your Family
Hmm, these are trouble sometimes, not that they haven't been trouble sometimes for six thousand years. At school : Trouble sometimes. I know a wonderful mother and a wonderful father who had two boys. In school, they went to different directions. And one become a model citizen, and the other one went to jail. WOW ! Protect your family as best as you can, from the hidden, dangerous, the looking evil one.

#12 Live With Intensity
Hmm, WHY NOT !? Invest more of you and whatever you do. Be a little stronger, wiser, step up you vitality, contribution. Put everything you've got into everything you do and ask for more vitality and more strength and more vigor, more heart, more soul.

#13 Find You Place
This one now is so important. If you're just work on the job, FIND THE BEST PLACE WHERE YOU CAN SERVE WELL. And sure enough, they'll ask you to occupy a better place. And if you keep doing the job well (and I remember guy said said, "Well, If I had a better job, I'd really poured on, but I got these lousy job, so I just go forth") See that's the philosophy of disaster.

So you got a lousy job, DO THE VERY BEST YOU CAN, LET YOUR BEST WAY OUT! It's not to do less than you could, but to do the best you can. With that philosophy, your life can take great leaps forward.

Here's the bible phrase that says, "IF YOU WORK ON ON YOUR GIFTS, THEY WILL MAKE A ROOM FOR YOU." Read More...

Hi I’m back again. By the way, I’m now finishing my final project, writing on my thesis about online customer satisfaction. So, what do I waiting for? :-)

Now some challenges for you.

Here they are : #1 REVIEW YOUR PERFORMANCE, whether it’s your communication, or whether it’s your activity, or CEO or on the job. ALWAYS DO MORE THAN YOU GET PAID FOR TO MAKE AN INVESTMENT IN YOUR FUTURE. Later, I read that some unions were argued with this statement, I don’t know.

If it’s raining you can’t fix the roof. If it isn’t raining, it doesn’t need to be fixed! HaHa.. So review you performance, your language with your friend, maybe your children, or your spouse, or you next spouse : just go over that and say, “Hey, I’ve been too harsh and too strong, too stubborn, should I learn to be easier mix more compassion with the though stuff I’ve to deal with? YES !

You know, PRAYER would help sometimes, if nothing else : “Dear GOD, HELP ME !” Say the right thing not to ruin it all by poor communication.

#2 FACE YOUR FEARS. You know, I don’t know what challenges you might have and goin over the stuff I’be wrote here in terms of amending you philosophy are going back, and re-doing some stuff that you might have messed up. Face all your fears, that’s how conquered them. Don’t dismiss them, just face them. Here’s what I’m afraid of, “I wonder what I could do to change that ??”

#3 EXERCISE YOUR WILL POWER. Maybe to change direction. You don’t have to keep doin which you’ve done the last week, or a month or a year or the last six years that’s not yielding you the benefit you on. My mentor (actually I have many mentor), help me to review the last 2 years so that I wouldn’t repeat those error the next two. So if you’re a goose, you have no choice to do the next two like you did the last two. But if you’re not a goose, here’s which you can do : "PICK A NEW DESTINATION AND START GOING THAT WAY!” You said : “I’ve done this for the last two years, I’ll probably have to do it in another two.”
THE ANSWER IS NO! NOT IN A MLLION YEARS!!!

Now you can change one little degree at the time or if you want to, you can revolutionized the whole thing!! Who says you couldn’t revolutionized the whole the whole thing in a weeks time, and start a brand new direction that will more assuredly help you arrive in a brand new place one year or three years from now??!

NO! No telling five years from now where you could arrive. Use your will power to start the process. Just will power to change a little or change a lot, ANYBODY CAN CHANGE. You don’t have to repeat last year. Clean up the errors, invest it now in the next year what that can make the different.

#4. Here is the next one that’s important (parents have to do it, your spouse, friends), we’ve got to do it. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES. Sometimes you have admit it to others. Here’s one of the best words in English : I’M SORRY. The reason why that those are good words cause it’s could start the whole new relationships, it could start two people goin' in a whole new direction. SIMPLE EASY (not that easy sometimes) but if you get this done, the turn around can be dramatic, the early years can be big in pay off.

#5 And here’s the big one. ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES TO YOUR SELF. You don’t have to battle about them to everybody in the neighborhood. But it doesn’t hurt to sit down and have conversation with yourself and say, “THERE’S NO USE KIDDING MY SELF, HERE’S WHERE I REALLY AM, I’VE GOT PENNYS IN MY POCKET AND I GOT NOTHING IN THE BANK.” That’s what I said when I finish my bachelor graduate and nothing to do, no job and no money. I had a conversation with my self.

And I said, “I DON’T WANT THIS TO HAPPEN ANYMORE!!!”

#6 Next, REFINE YOUR GOALS. I don’t know what ambition you’ve had up until now, but I think this end of 2007 would be a good time to start the process. I’ll write about that GOALS WORKSHOP before I will finish the topic here, maybe that will help to stimulate you to set some higher goals, reach for some higher purpose, go for something beyond what you thought you could do, and you might double, triple, quadruple, the amount of goals, purpose all the things you think you can accomplish, you could multiply that by TEN by the time I will finish here (in the next day I will write it)

#7 Here’s the next one, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Yes you got to believe in GOD and community and possibility, and the economy, and tomorrow can be better than today. But here’s the big one : Believe in yourself. There isn’t the skill you can’t learn, there isn’t the discipline you can’t try, there isn’t the class you couldn’t take, there isn’t the book you couldn’t read. If it’s written in some other language, just get it translated, and read it! Read More...

You must be careful with power. A father must be careful with power, so that his children doesn’t live in s shadow. A father must restrain to be a good father, restrain… Yes he could, yes he’s capable… but he must restrain. That’s the civilized society.

The more powerful you are the more careful you have to be.

Hey, the elephant must be careful where he steps. You say, “Well, but this is a big.. big.. happy friendly elephant" (YES BUT THE MOUSE IS DEAD! HE DIDN’T SEE HIM)

He just went walkin’ (AND NOW THE POOR MOUSE IS GONE !) He didn’t mean to, but he is so BIG. That he has to be careful where he steps. I believe that you’re the powerful people and I’m asking you to be careful where you step and be careful what you say, and be careful what you write, be careful in conversation (why is it careful?). Strong but easy, and good communication belongs to you.

Here is the next : THE MORE YOU CARE THE STRONGER YOU CAN BE. Even children will allow you to really get in their case, if they know you really care. If there’s no doubt about your sincerity, your heart that breaks, when you have to cover something unpleasant, there’s no doubt about that, and the more you care, the stronger you can be. And if you gonna be strong, you have to care.

That’s some conversation that you have with your spouse or children or your friend that don’t make sense if you don’t cry, if the tears don’t flow, these conversation doesn’t make sense. This is just belligerent.

I don’t mind a minister consigning my soul to hell fire for my sinful way, as long as he does it with tear and not with joy! If you’re gonna preach sermon on hell fire, wouldn’t you have to sob and cry?? If you’re gonna preach hell fire, you have to sob and cry ! If dry eye, you preach hell fire, everybody dismiss it as a performance.

Unless you’re heart breaks, the tears flow, you can’t preach hell fire for an individual, doesn’t make sense, we dismiss it as ego. But if you’re heart breaks and the tears flow, you can cover some of pretty heavy weight stuff, and be so effective. Read More...

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Now parents (maybe you will be the next parent, I will be too), let me write here about cruel and unusual punishment. You must be gifted in thinking of ways. Now sometimes severity is needed but only as a last . . . last . . . last . . . resort.

John Kennedy’s father (Old Jo) said this to John (and it’ll serve in so many way and you’ll see when I give it to you) : “IF IT’S NOT NECCESARY TO CHANGE, IT’S NECESSARY NOT TO CHANGE”. If it’s not absolutely necessary to scold, then it’s necessary no to scold. If it’s not absolutely necessary not to use sarcasm, then it’s necessary, in all of you’re the rest of your speech, not to use sarcasm.

A mother who scream all day at her children, finally the kid get used to. Mom just scream all day, kids come over to visit, and say, “Don’t mind, Mama, she just the screamer, I mean she just scream all day, everything, scream all day." So the kids are used to it. But now comes the big problem when the three old year child is headed for the street and the truck is coming and mama scream. NOBODY PAYS IN ATTENTION! Mama should save up her screams, so that the day she does and it becomes a necessary of the tool of last resort, the day she scream THE WORLD STOPS ! Wow ! See that’s the key.

#4 TEMPER
“IF IT’S NOT NECCESARY TO LOSE TEMPER (now sometimes it is!), IT’S NECESSARY NOT TO LOSE YOU TEMPER”. Just hang on to that emotion explosion. Yes you can explode all over somebody, but only as a last resort of it’s called for, but not all the time. All of us have to contained ourselves. Here’s the first law of the civilized society : THE RESTRAIN OF POWER AND RESTRAIN OF THE EVIL SIDE OF OUR NATURE. When a little three old boy hit another three old boy over the head, if he’s not restrain, he will do it again! And if he’s not further restrain, he’d probably enjoy it. And we have the beginning of un-civilized person.

The first mark of civilization to be a civilized society is the restrain of your emotion, the restrain of your words, the restrain of your power. That’s the beginning of the civilized society. And so it is in civilized language, communication. The restrain of being so powerful you blow somebody away or make the situation so impossible that’ll never be cure. Effective but careful, easy but powerful.

Speaking of Jesus one more time (it’s so easy to use the Bible as almost an exclusive source of stories and illustrations). The records tells according to the story tellers, the record tells us that Jesus in three and half years of HIS ministries only lost his cool just a few times, NOT A FEW TIMES A DAY ! NO ! Just a few times in three and a half years. See . . . that’s the key. But when he did, BEWARE. Just one scene where HE grove them out temple, kick over the money changer’s table, scream like a camachi, grab the whip and drove them all out the place until the place was empty!

Everybody said, “Get out of here . . . HE’s on the rampage . . . !” Have you got it? Make it on your note : NOT EVERY DAY !!! So I’m asking you, OK? The restrain the power, yes you can use, yes you can empty the place, but see only as of a tools of last resort, whether it’s the community, or the company or the person or child, right? The restrain of power. Read More...

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An interesting subject now in rapping up communication, call TOOLS OF LAST RESORT. Here’s my language something you can use, that can be highly effective but we call it tools of last resort, not to be used in less of like no hope left, there is the only last chance, there’s no other possible way, the you reach in your bag of tools for the tools of last resort.

#1 DIRECT ATTACK.
You, instead using yourself as an example, using third party as an example, you go right after somebody, it’s call a direct attack on the problem, that’s mixed in with the person, and you’re trying to be delicate and careful but they need to hear it direct. That you got to be very careful of. Use every any other means possible first before you go for the direct attack. Third party, use yourself, every illustration you can think off, but finally, that doesn’t do it, finally, you maybe to say YOU ! But you now must do it very carefully, and only as a tool of last resort

#2.SARCASM.
Sarcasm is a useful communication tool, but you must be careful how you use it. Sarcasm says, “Who do you think you are??!.” As the GOD say to Joe (John I mean), and he’s complaining. And GOD gave Joe a unbelievable lessons and HE said,

“Where were you when I put the world and places?!” “Where were you when I flunk the stars into the heaven?!” “Where were you? Hiding on the bush?!”

I mean, this is sort of an eagle trick for GOD working in Joe. A bit of sarcasm. But the time it comes, and Joe need to hear it, there’s no other re-course but to right after. Sure enough it turns around. Someone walks and late and you say, “Where have you been??!!!” (especially if it’s in a symbol group). You got to be very careful to things like that. That’s loaded.., with you don’t care..? Especially exposing something in an audience of people. Best to do those kind of thing private, get someone of the side and say, “Hey, late one more time, and I’m telling you, you won’t be welcome here anymore.” See you can jump the gun in somebody’s head with sarcasm. Tools of ..LAST RESORT, when there is no hope left and there’s only way.

#3 SCOLDING.
You have to be very careful of scolding. Scolding sometimes as a last resort is very necessary, but you must be very careful. Scolding someone is like giving him a CUT, with your word like on the hand. Maybe it serves the purpose and the cut will heal, and everything will be OK, you need to get their attention. But you must not do it every day, all the time.

Some children wind up with this physic scars because they’ve been slash and cut every day, scold . . . slash . . .cut . . . every day ! And the wind up, psychology disadvantage. Because of this kind of treatment, somebody who has the words. Words that are cruel, but they use too often and too often all the time, rather than saving it up for the tool of last resort, they just cut and slash all the time, and kid sometimes has a hard time working out of this problem, because of that kind these atmosphere.

Too severe we say too severe. In some country if you steal, they cut off your hand! That’s a bit too severe, isn’t it? Maybe it little piece of the finger, not the whole hand ! Hahaha. But guess what they say, it’s very effective. Say, “Did you ever steal anything else?” He answer, “What, are you kidding, with just one hand?! NO! So it’s effective, but we would say what? To severe.

What will we say with someone now that has been convicted, they must not suffer cruel and unusual punishment, hopefully would continually to be a country that doesn’t have a minister cruel and unusual punishment. Read More...

Next is on become a good persuader :

#2 BORROWING SAYING IT WELL FROM SOMEONE ELSE, like the lyrics of the song of somebody’s written something that so gifted in terms of it’s meaning and impact as might you will use it.

I write early about Zig Ziglar. Zig said that “If you help enough people to get what they want . . .”I didn’t say that, I borrow it. Zig said that, I borrow it. It’s effective as Zig said it.I borrow the lyrics from songs, the messages of someone else. To some people have said that so well, you couldn’t have thought that in a million years.

Winston Churchil said,
"The truth is inconvertible Mallace may attack it, and ignorance may de-right it ;
But in the end, there it is."

See you can stay all night and think of that :-) So why not be a good student of good ideas, a good student of things well said, just borrow.. borrow, use.. use.

Here is the next one : #3 STRAIGHT TALK, TELL IT LIKE IT IS. I’m sure these days everybody ready to accept this, no nonsense, tell it like it is, straight talk. This is not a belligerent talk now, this is just straight talk, no nonsense, this is a how it really is, there is no sugar coding it, or glamorize it.

Some people are in the affirmation glamorize something, but we don’t need that. “Every day and every way I getting better and better.” What if that is not the truth???! Would you keep saying it and saying it??!

Here’s the best affirmation (THE TRUTH) : “I’m working of discipline every day that’s making me better and better.” See now that affirmation is the truth (if that’s the truth). Straight talk.

AFFIRMATION WITHOUT DISCIPLINE IS THE BEGINNING OF DELUSION.

Plenty is possible without being foolish.

Here’s the truth : WE ARE THE VICTIM OF OUR SIN AND OUR ERROR
Here’s also the truth : YOU CAN TURN IT AROUND IN ONE DAY AND HIT A BRAND NEW DIRECTION.

And probably within a few weeks maybe in a few months, the early return will keep you on this track forever and the fortune belongs to you. And the answer is WHY NOT? The quicker you turn it around the quicker the abundance belongs to you and the closer your fortune comes and then you’ll have the health, breath and the vitality to do extraordinary things if you start a new health program today.

So you’ve messed up in the past, that’s the truth. The truth also is today can be a brand new day, pick a new destination. The truth is revealing and inspiring, that’s why we use it, that’s why we don’t use some tricky other stuff . The truth alone is enough, it sets you free.

One : To correct old errors
Two : To set up easy discipline that changes everything.

Here’s what’s next : #4 LEARN TO DEAL IN CHALLENGES.
That’s all sports and music all about. To play so well someone inspired, the challenges to say it well someone gets it, the challenges to be so gifted in language that somebody sees it. It’s unbelievable.

Only human being can do this, “Close your eyes.” The man close his hand over his eyes and says, “I see it . . I see it.” NO..! “You got your eyes closed” NO ! There’s more that one way to see. And also somebody has to do a see an answer that he can start it immediately, and within the six month, their whole life will start to multiply and change, within one year, the different will be extraordinary, and the person who was lost, now become the person of influence, just because somebody help them to see for the moment, what was wrong, and the possibility to change it. And then the challenge to go do it and do it well.

Now here’s the best challenge of all : #5 LET’S GO DO IT.
Not only say you go do it, you go do it. LET’S GET HEALTY, LET’S CHANGE THE WORLD, LET’S BUILD AN ENTERPRISE, LET’S WORK ON THIS TOGETHER. See I always respond to this. Sometimes it’s hard to leave yourself out, it’s hard to self inspired first. If somebody said, “C’mon, let’s start a new program.”
“C’mon, let’s do an exercises.”
“C’mon, let’s get healthy.”
“C’mon, let’s start something.” That is so inspiring to have somebody said LET’S.

There’s something about that can keep you wake at night, that turns on the juices, that reaches deep in the soul, for a person that can do extraordinary things when somebody said LET’S.. LET’S “I’ve got two with me already, if you’ll be the next, we can conquer the world !!” (WOW !!) “Together nobody match for us, by yourself, you’re vulnerable, with us, nobody match !!” (WOW !!) So figure out ways to say LET’S . . . LET’S . . . Read More...