If you’re OK, say
I AM OK !!? Is these stuff helpful so far? I wanna hear YES.. Fantasic…
Here is the next one that’s really challenging, that is READ YOUR AUDIENCE,
whether an audience of a child, or audience of a training class, or whether you’re a minister and you preach. Here’s what you got to do : SAY SOMETHING WELL BUT THEN READ THE AFFECTURE HAVING.
“Should I keep going or should I quit? Is it over or..? You must know should you slow down, or speed up, or are you coming on too a little to strong, should you getting a little softer." This is what reading is all about. If you’re talking to a child, should you really pure on or should you hesitate? Should you say this for another time or do it now? Some of that you gotta pick up by reading the child. Read what’s happening to your audience of one or a thousand. This is a challenge. But it will help you in framing better the word you need to say, and the style you need to use.
If a guy leaning toward the door that mean you probably should hurry ! He’s not gonna here long. Get it done.
Now in reading, here’s three things : 
#1 You Read what you see. Sales people soon learn, if a customer got his arm folded and his chin tuck down and his frowning, this one ain’t gonna be easy. This one gonna take my skill to make his arm unfolded, make him a little more comfortable, get that frown off his face, “what can I do?” I got to reach in my back for some good stuff right, to see if I can change the situation. And what cause us now to do those amendments in our presentation, that’s reading somebody language.
#2 You Read what you hear. If it’s two way conversation, you got to listen as well as talk. Two ears one mouth, listen twice as you talk at least, maybe more. Listen so you can now how to proceed, especially if you’re talking to a child, you listen so you know how to proceed, not just going on and on.
#3You got to pick up the emotional signal, how you feel, whether you’re comin’ too stong, would you should be stronger or easier this time. That’s an art, in reading, first what you see, second what you hear, third read how you feel. Women are good in this stuff. It’s built in, I guess. So come on man?!
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I'm back again, most in past few days I had something to do about the school stuff.Now you got to
develop your own style (like I do in this recent time). You can be a student of style. There is a dozen people that I know over the years that you know
those dozen appear to someone’s style. You know, NOT COPYING ANYONE PERSON. “I like the person’s gestures.” Frank Sinatra was the best not for only his lyrics and his phrasing, and his style, but his GESTURES. They were captivating, part of his persona.
So make this note, it’s not just what you say, IT IS HOW YOU SAY IT. Style, sincerity, the way you present it, heart, soul, from deep inside, commitment, dedication, all there in your language, so when you present it, become incredibly effective.
Next is Vocabulary.
The better your vocabulary, the better you can share ideas that were meaningful, find words now to use that you couldn’t use before. Interesting story on vocabulary (I read in on a book). Some people in research took a survey among prisoners, some rehabilitation programs they working on for prisoners : THERE’S DEFINITELY A CONNECTION BETWEEN VOCABULARY AND BEHAVIOR.
And here is what they discovered : THE MORE LIMITED THE VOCABULARY, THE MORE TENDENCY TO POOR BEHAVIOR. Isn’t that interesting? And when you think about it for a while, you can say, “Well I can see where that would be.” If you’re very limited in your ability to comprehend because you have such as limited small vocabulary, no matter what someone said, you’d still be confusing, it still might not make sense. They said it clear but you couldn’t see it and sometimes it’s because the vocabulary is so limited that is doesn’t have the ability to register the scene on the screen of your consciousness.
So start working on vocabulary, and immediately BEHAVIOR WILL START TO CHANGE. Being able to see, comprehend. Now I see, now I understand the reason why. And as your education increases that should be one of the major purpose of your education, is to help to see thing you couldn’t see before, comprehend what you couldn’t comprehend before, see beyond tomorrow you couldn’t see before. See that the gift. Now here’s another reason.
ONLY FROM WITH OUR PRESENT VOCABULARY CAN WE EXPRESS, what’s goin’ on our head and heart. You can’t express beyond your present vocabulary. What if it’s very limited, then your ability to express what you think, express how you feel is limited. So by a very restricted vocabulary, if you can’t understand very well, and if you can’t express very well, then your world become very very small, and you only need a place eight by ten to live.
So remember this : Make one of the books very important book and that is the DICTIONARY. Word that you don’t understand, look it up. What is the word? There is nothing richer than English language, not like Indonesian, as you translate it, the art become disappear. You understand that? It is interesting when you have MULTI LANGUAGES. (I learned Chinese language, reading and some writing, only for four months). The gift of language is so powerful, it’s worth the exercise, it’s worth the effort. Vocabulary, brevity, style, repetition, sincerity, saying it well.
Here is another on saying it well : DON’T FAIL TO SAY IT.
You need to practice. Practice every where. If you’re gonna give someone a gift and send a little card, practice making this little card something will kept and remembered for the rest of their life.
NOT ORDINARY, EXTRA ORDINARY.
Not like every one else, different than everyone else. It’s the practice of using your gift of saying things, another way until the light turns on, another way that express something heart, felt, that the standard ordinary language couldn’t reach, couldn’t paint this mental pictures. It’s OK to give flowers. But don’t let flowers do all your talking. Flowers have a limited vocabulary.
Guess what flower say : “YOU REMEMBER ME !” That’s about all they say.
Flowers don’t say, “NOBODY IN THIS WORLD AFFECTS ME LIKE YOU DO..LOVE..”
See flower talk, but they don’t say that say that. That you got to put into a little card.
“NOBODY IN THIS WORLD AFFECTS ME LIKE YOU DO..LOVE..”
Then you sign it.
And see long after the flowers were gone, somebody will gonna keep the words.
The words is more powerful than the flowers. So don’t let the flower do all your talking. See if you can choose the words that has meaning, unique, and the more you do this, practicing every little occasion to say something well. Keep improving, find a new way to say it, a new illustration, a new story, you’ll get better, the gift will belong to you, and the effect could be electrifying. DON’T FAIL TO SAY IT. I guess women are better at this really than men. Women seems to able to find the language much easier to say something. Men have to work at it a little hard. Not just standard.
Jim Rohn once told his story when he and his wife, Judy parted ways, unique experience. He wrote a little notes :
Dear Judy As often as the night comes, so does my sadness
As constant as the day arrive, so is my love for you
I wish for you and I wish the best for you And I understand that dilemma
My life is here where you touch me
If every you would call I’ll be there to be touched again.
Isn't that touch you?
Note this : “Words are no substitution for action, ACTION IS NO SUBTITUTE FOR WORDS.
It’s Ok to do.. do.. do.. but you’ve also got to say say.. say.. say.. Express it as clumsy as it might be to start. Start a better program of better communication, saying it better, saying it better.
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If you’re OK, say I AM OK !!? Is these stuff helpful so far? I wanna hear YES.. Fantasic…
#3You got to pick up the emotional signal, how you feel, whether you’re comin’ too stong, would you should be stronger or easier this time. That’s an art, in reading, first what you see, second what you hear, third read how you feel. Women are good in this stuff. It’s built in, I guess. So come on man?!
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