Life and Business Lessons

You must be careful with power. A father must be careful with power, so that his children doesn’t live in s shadow. A father must restrain to be a good father, restrain… Yes he could, yes he’s capable… but he must restrain. That’s the civilized society.

The more powerful you are the more careful you have to be.

Hey, the elephant must be careful where he steps. You say, “Well, but this is a big.. big.. happy friendly elephant" (YES BUT THE MOUSE IS DEAD! HE DIDN’T SEE HIM)

He just went walkin’ (AND NOW THE POOR MOUSE IS GONE !) He didn’t mean to, but he is so BIG. That he has to be careful where he steps. I believe that you’re the powerful people and I’m asking you to be careful where you step and be careful what you say, and be careful what you write, be careful in conversation (why is it careful?). Strong but easy, and good communication belongs to you.

Here is the next : THE MORE YOU CARE THE STRONGER YOU CAN BE. Even children will allow you to really get in their case, if they know you really care. If there’s no doubt about your sincerity, your heart that breaks, when you have to cover something unpleasant, there’s no doubt about that, and the more you care, the stronger you can be. And if you gonna be strong, you have to care.

That’s some conversation that you have with your spouse or children or your friend that don’t make sense if you don’t cry, if the tears don’t flow, these conversation doesn’t make sense. This is just belligerent.

I don’t mind a minister consigning my soul to hell fire for my sinful way, as long as he does it with tear and not with joy! If you’re gonna preach sermon on hell fire, wouldn’t you have to sob and cry?? If you’re gonna preach hell fire, you have to sob and cry ! If dry eye, you preach hell fire, everybody dismiss it as a performance.

Unless you’re heart breaks, the tears flow, you can’t preach hell fire for an individual, doesn’t make sense, we dismiss it as ego. But if you’re heart breaks and the tears flow, you can cover some of pretty heavy weight stuff, and be so effective. Read More...

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Now parents (maybe you will be the next parent, I will be too), let me write here about cruel and unusual punishment. You must be gifted in thinking of ways. Now sometimes severity is needed but only as a last . . . last . . . last . . . resort.

John Kennedy’s father (Old Jo) said this to John (and it’ll serve in so many way and you’ll see when I give it to you) : “IF IT’S NOT NECCESARY TO CHANGE, IT’S NECESSARY NOT TO CHANGE”. If it’s not absolutely necessary to scold, then it’s necessary no to scold. If it’s not absolutely necessary not to use sarcasm, then it’s necessary, in all of you’re the rest of your speech, not to use sarcasm.

A mother who scream all day at her children, finally the kid get used to. Mom just scream all day, kids come over to visit, and say, “Don’t mind, Mama, she just the screamer, I mean she just scream all day, everything, scream all day." So the kids are used to it. But now comes the big problem when the three old year child is headed for the street and the truck is coming and mama scream. NOBODY PAYS IN ATTENTION! Mama should save up her screams, so that the day she does and it becomes a necessary of the tool of last resort, the day she scream THE WORLD STOPS ! Wow ! See that’s the key.

#4 TEMPER
“IF IT’S NOT NECCESARY TO LOSE TEMPER (now sometimes it is!), IT’S NECESSARY NOT TO LOSE YOU TEMPER”. Just hang on to that emotion explosion. Yes you can explode all over somebody, but only as a last resort of it’s called for, but not all the time. All of us have to contained ourselves. Here’s the first law of the civilized society : THE RESTRAIN OF POWER AND RESTRAIN OF THE EVIL SIDE OF OUR NATURE. When a little three old boy hit another three old boy over the head, if he’s not restrain, he will do it again! And if he’s not further restrain, he’d probably enjoy it. And we have the beginning of un-civilized person.

The first mark of civilization to be a civilized society is the restrain of your emotion, the restrain of your words, the restrain of your power. That’s the beginning of the civilized society. And so it is in civilized language, communication. The restrain of being so powerful you blow somebody away or make the situation so impossible that’ll never be cure. Effective but careful, easy but powerful.

Speaking of Jesus one more time (it’s so easy to use the Bible as almost an exclusive source of stories and illustrations). The records tells according to the story tellers, the record tells us that Jesus in three and half years of HIS ministries only lost his cool just a few times, NOT A FEW TIMES A DAY ! NO ! Just a few times in three and a half years. See . . . that’s the key. But when he did, BEWARE. Just one scene where HE grove them out temple, kick over the money changer’s table, scream like a camachi, grab the whip and drove them all out the place until the place was empty!

Everybody said, “Get out of here . . . HE’s on the rampage . . . !” Have you got it? Make it on your note : NOT EVERY DAY !!! So I’m asking you, OK? The restrain the power, yes you can use, yes you can empty the place, but see only as of a tools of last resort, whether it’s the community, or the company or the person or child, right? The restrain of power. Read More...

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An interesting subject now in rapping up communication, call TOOLS OF LAST RESORT. Here’s my language something you can use, that can be highly effective but we call it tools of last resort, not to be used in less of like no hope left, there is the only last chance, there’s no other possible way, the you reach in your bag of tools for the tools of last resort.

#1 DIRECT ATTACK.
You, instead using yourself as an example, using third party as an example, you go right after somebody, it’s call a direct attack on the problem, that’s mixed in with the person, and you’re trying to be delicate and careful but they need to hear it direct. That you got to be very careful of. Use every any other means possible first before you go for the direct attack. Third party, use yourself, every illustration you can think off, but finally, that doesn’t do it, finally, you maybe to say YOU ! But you now must do it very carefully, and only as a tool of last resort

#2.SARCASM.
Sarcasm is a useful communication tool, but you must be careful how you use it. Sarcasm says, “Who do you think you are??!.” As the GOD say to Joe (John I mean), and he’s complaining. And GOD gave Joe a unbelievable lessons and HE said,

“Where were you when I put the world and places?!” “Where were you when I flunk the stars into the heaven?!” “Where were you? Hiding on the bush?!”

I mean, this is sort of an eagle trick for GOD working in Joe. A bit of sarcasm. But the time it comes, and Joe need to hear it, there’s no other re-course but to right after. Sure enough it turns around. Someone walks and late and you say, “Where have you been??!!!” (especially if it’s in a symbol group). You got to be very careful to things like that. That’s loaded.., with you don’t care..? Especially exposing something in an audience of people. Best to do those kind of thing private, get someone of the side and say, “Hey, late one more time, and I’m telling you, you won’t be welcome here anymore.” See you can jump the gun in somebody’s head with sarcasm. Tools of ..LAST RESORT, when there is no hope left and there’s only way.

#3 SCOLDING.
You have to be very careful of scolding. Scolding sometimes as a last resort is very necessary, but you must be very careful. Scolding someone is like giving him a CUT, with your word like on the hand. Maybe it serves the purpose and the cut will heal, and everything will be OK, you need to get their attention. But you must not do it every day, all the time.

Some children wind up with this physic scars because they’ve been slash and cut every day, scold . . . slash . . .cut . . . every day ! And the wind up, psychology disadvantage. Because of this kind of treatment, somebody who has the words. Words that are cruel, but they use too often and too often all the time, rather than saving it up for the tool of last resort, they just cut and slash all the time, and kid sometimes has a hard time working out of this problem, because of that kind these atmosphere.

Too severe we say too severe. In some country if you steal, they cut off your hand! That’s a bit too severe, isn’t it? Maybe it little piece of the finger, not the whole hand ! Hahaha. But guess what they say, it’s very effective. Say, “Did you ever steal anything else?” He answer, “What, are you kidding, with just one hand?! NO! So it’s effective, but we would say what? To severe.

What will we say with someone now that has been convicted, they must not suffer cruel and unusual punishment, hopefully would continually to be a country that doesn’t have a minister cruel and unusual punishment. Read More...

Next is on become a good persuader :

#2 BORROWING SAYING IT WELL FROM SOMEONE ELSE, like the lyrics of the song of somebody’s written something that so gifted in terms of it’s meaning and impact as might you will use it.

I write early about Zig Ziglar. Zig said that “If you help enough people to get what they want . . .”I didn’t say that, I borrow it. Zig said that, I borrow it. It’s effective as Zig said it.I borrow the lyrics from songs, the messages of someone else. To some people have said that so well, you couldn’t have thought that in a million years.

Winston Churchil said,
"The truth is inconvertible Mallace may attack it, and ignorance may de-right it ;
But in the end, there it is."

See you can stay all night and think of that :-) So why not be a good student of good ideas, a good student of things well said, just borrow.. borrow, use.. use.

Here is the next one : #3 STRAIGHT TALK, TELL IT LIKE IT IS. I’m sure these days everybody ready to accept this, no nonsense, tell it like it is, straight talk. This is not a belligerent talk now, this is just straight talk, no nonsense, this is a how it really is, there is no sugar coding it, or glamorize it.

Some people are in the affirmation glamorize something, but we don’t need that. “Every day and every way I getting better and better.” What if that is not the truth???! Would you keep saying it and saying it??!

Here’s the best affirmation (THE TRUTH) : “I’m working of discipline every day that’s making me better and better.” See now that affirmation is the truth (if that’s the truth). Straight talk.

AFFIRMATION WITHOUT DISCIPLINE IS THE BEGINNING OF DELUSION.

Plenty is possible without being foolish.

Here’s the truth : WE ARE THE VICTIM OF OUR SIN AND OUR ERROR
Here’s also the truth : YOU CAN TURN IT AROUND IN ONE DAY AND HIT A BRAND NEW DIRECTION.

And probably within a few weeks maybe in a few months, the early return will keep you on this track forever and the fortune belongs to you. And the answer is WHY NOT? The quicker you turn it around the quicker the abundance belongs to you and the closer your fortune comes and then you’ll have the health, breath and the vitality to do extraordinary things if you start a new health program today.

So you’ve messed up in the past, that’s the truth. The truth also is today can be a brand new day, pick a new destination. The truth is revealing and inspiring, that’s why we use it, that’s why we don’t use some tricky other stuff . The truth alone is enough, it sets you free.

One : To correct old errors
Two : To set up easy discipline that changes everything.

Here’s what’s next : #4 LEARN TO DEAL IN CHALLENGES.
That’s all sports and music all about. To play so well someone inspired, the challenges to say it well someone gets it, the challenges to be so gifted in language that somebody sees it. It’s unbelievable.

Only human being can do this, “Close your eyes.” The man close his hand over his eyes and says, “I see it . . I see it.” NO..! “You got your eyes closed” NO ! There’s more that one way to see. And also somebody has to do a see an answer that he can start it immediately, and within the six month, their whole life will start to multiply and change, within one year, the different will be extraordinary, and the person who was lost, now become the person of influence, just because somebody help them to see for the moment, what was wrong, and the possibility to change it. And then the challenge to go do it and do it well.

Now here’s the best challenge of all : #5 LET’S GO DO IT.
Not only say you go do it, you go do it. LET’S GET HEALTY, LET’S CHANGE THE WORLD, LET’S BUILD AN ENTERPRISE, LET’S WORK ON THIS TOGETHER. See I always respond to this. Sometimes it’s hard to leave yourself out, it’s hard to self inspired first. If somebody said, “C’mon, let’s start a new program.”
“C’mon, let’s do an exercises.”
“C’mon, let’s get healthy.”
“C’mon, let’s start something.” That is so inspiring to have somebody said LET’S.

There’s something about that can keep you wake at night, that turns on the juices, that reaches deep in the soul, for a person that can do extraordinary things when somebody said LET’S.. LET’S “I’ve got two with me already, if you’ll be the next, we can conquer the world !!” (WOW !!) “Together nobody match for us, by yourself, you’re vulnerable, with us, nobody match !!” (WOW !!) So figure out ways to say LET’S . . . LET’S . . . Read More...

Make these lists to become a good persuader of people to change their ways, people to change or to grow, or even persuading someone to buy or to participate. In the art of persuasion, here is the deal :

#1 BECOME A GOOD STORY TELLER
In the way to become a good story teller is to gather up stories or testimonials. Here is one I’m asking you to do : Learn some of those stories of people who started nothing, people who started behind and made it work, people who had no money but had courage. If you got enough courage, you don’t need much money, that’s all you need, is a little seed or something, a chance. You don’t need a promise or a guarantee !!
If you talk to teenager, just gather some of the teenager stories :
Teenagers who are in trouble, now set free. Teenagers who couldn’t find their way, now they know the way. Teenagers who couldn’t communicate, now they can communicate. Teenagers who were lost, now they’re found. Teenagers who help themselves, now they can help others.

Just learn some of these teenage stories, there’s plenty around.

Jesus was one of the great story teller, to use HIM one more time. HE had this gift :
HE said, “The Kingdom of heaven is like . . .” He didn’t say, “The Kingdom of heaven was . . . and then try to describe it in some abstract terms.
“It’s like A FAMILY”
“It’s like YOU AND ME”
“It’s like US”

See we can understand that. Something abstract? We couldn’t understand that! But HE said It’s like . . . (and tell a story) What a gift??! See that’s being gifted, practicing the craft so well that you can do that.

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Here’s one of the best ways to inspire someone else : HELP THEM TO SEE THEMSELVES BETTER THAN THEY ARE. Sometimes we have to help people see themselves as they are. If your friend or your child or your spouse messed up, you got to say, “Hey, you have messed up!” But here’s the next clue, buddy : DON’T LEAVE THEM IN THE MESS!!

So they’ve messed up, how quickly could they turn it around? Almost overnight! What could be the promise of the future if they start walking a new road? Absolutely colossal and unbelievable. So we quickly go from saying, “Yes you’ve messed up, no doubt about that." But here’s how quickly you can recover, multiply the future in a positive way versus negative way that brought you to this poor place.” See the gift of language can do the most incredible things with the human beings, rescue and send them into the future with the a picture of the promise, the possibilities. Don’t be lazy in exercising this gifts.

Someone say, “How good we do at it?” As good you possibly can.
Someone say, “This is only a child?” What a better place to start, correcting a few errors and building the promise of the future. We can’t say it’s only a child This could be the next superstar. This could be the next superstar. This could be the next person of high productivity that start enterprises that employees . . . millions !

THE PROMISE OF THE FUTURE IS AN AWESOME FORCE.

Jesus use it as an incredible incentive. He said to HIS little group, “We’re gonna have a tough time and a bit of misunderstood. This is a new things we got going here. Some people are gonna like it and some people are not gonna like it and you know the devils are after us and all of the rest of this stuff that start this drama way back in the beginning for the beginning since it hasn’t change. But we got such as a splendid idea, it worth working, I’ve been with you know three and half years, and here’s the deal. Let’s now tell the story to someone else."

They said OK!

So they start telling the story, sure enough, they run into challenges, the devils do their work! And I’m sure, Jesus said to them, “If we do the work well, I promise you when all of this is finished, in MY Father’s house are many mansions. See that’s clever !!

HE PUT THE MANSION SHOT ON THEM! HaHaHa..

No wonder they walk the street and told the story, fought the devils and fought the oppositions. No wonder ! But I’m sure the came back to Jesus every once in a while and said, “WOULD YOU TELL US THE MANSIONS ONE MORE TIME? WE HAD A REALLY TOUGH DAY!” HaHaHa…

So you got to do this with your children, spouse maybe or friends. You got to dazzle them. Take dazzling lessons. So that you can give them the promise of the future. They’ll do extraordinary things, if they can see. If they can see, they’ll take little steps maybe GIANT STEPS! Read More...

Here’s another part of communication : That is SOLUTIONS. Solutions usely involved by communication being able to take somebody from the present. For sometimes we take someone back to review their mistakes. Sometimes first to help someone we take the back and examine the errors that brought them to a poor place. Error in (health, career, personal) judgment. So sometimes we have to take someone back and sometime it’s difficult to go back over those time that were difficult.

Then here’s the next challenge, BRING THEM TO THE PRESENT. Here’s how it is now. Guess what NOW always is : “THE GREATEST OF HOPE AND THE GREATEST OF POSSIBILITY.” If you begin NOW to amend those error in judgment, to construct the new destination and their by a new direction, because direction determine destination.

If you reconstruct NOW, starting NOW, so we give them the sense of the past, errors that might bring tears, sadness, cloud for a while. Wow! Yes that’s how it was, yes that’s where I made my mistake. But here NOW : “NOW IS LIKE SPRING, A NEW OPPRTUNITY.” And then we describe the NOW in the opportunity.

But here what’s best IS TO BE ABLE TO TRANSPORT SOMEONE INTO THE FUTURE, with their problem solved, with money in the bank, with their health restored. You can’t restore your health overnight. So you got to take someone into the future, in just a few months you’ll know the difference, in the first year, it’ll be incredible, by the end of the third year, I PROMISE SUCH AN ABUNDANCE of this, this, and this change to this change, this kind of productivity, activity.

Take somebody on the journey back, show them the present (called opportunity) and take them to the journey into the future. And here’s how it can be, here’s how it going to be. THE PROMISE OF THE FUTURE IS AN AWSOME FORCE. In the future problem can be solved, fortune can be won, productivity can be incredible. So be able to paint the past and present and the future. This is one of the most awesome challenges of the communication. Read More...